Wednesday, February 1, 2012


This is my motto for this year. Our attitudes, thoughts, and emotions fuel our success or down fall. Even though the outer world may appear to be scary with all the changes that are occurring, a lot of the changes are for the better.
We can go kicking or screaming resisting our destiny. Or we can release our resistance to what is and walk through any situation with courage, faith, and a deeper knowing that we do not see all the forces of good that are working for us.
First we need to surrender our resistance, negative attitudes and over reactions to our current situations. Next we enter the stillness and align ourselves energetically with the Creator’s love, wisdom, and direction. We open ourselves to that which is beyond our ability to understand and we stand in the attitude of expecting the best.
When we release the resistance and open our hearts and minds to the possibility of good occurring, the Universe answers us with the energy and outcomes that support our good. We let it in. It attracts similar energy into our field like a magnet. A good attitude attracts a favorable outcome. The outcome may not be the way that we wanted or expected (that is where the surrendering the resistance to what we see comes in).  
When we resist, we keep the good from entering our radar of reality. We keep attracting energy that resists our good, our greater possibilities. What we attract mirrors our inner and outer thoughts and feelings.
I have always considered myself to be a positive person. However, at one point in my life I got stuck in a negative place. A wonderful that I did not know very well asked me why I was so negative? I was floored. I could not believe what I heard because that is not how I saw myself. She told me to listen to my inner and outer dialogs and make a choice to stay there or change. After listening to the sad stories that I kept telling, I realized that this was not the place where I wanted to be so I consciously chose new words and began aligning with the energy of present, not the past. Each moment we can live in the energy of expecting the best or plant land mines on our journey that will go off at undetermined times because that is the energy that we are creating.
I encourage you to use this motto or some other possible affirmation to keep you aligned in attracting the good that can occur in your life. Post it on your computer, on the bathroom mirror, in your workspace. Keep it there until you naturally begin to expect positive outcomes.
Watch your thoughts for they become your words.
Watch your words for they become your actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
Expect the Best,


  1. My husband, kids and our two very close married friends call me negative all the time. I don't get that from co-workers or other friends, who always say I am upbeat and positive. I am trying to see how I am portraying this negative attitude towards them but not the outside world.

    I sometimes feel if it my husband fault because if he doesn't like what I said he will constantly call my thoughts or comments negative. I try to explain how everyone respects him and if he continues to tell me in front of friends and family that I am negative that they will start to repeat the same thing.

    I feel that if he needs to correct what I say or my actions he should do it in private. I explain to him that I never chastise him in front of others because it is not fair that how I may be feeling, which may or may not be valid should not sway the view of others that should form there own opinion.

    I would like to understand how to come to terms with the fact that maybe I am being negative toward my family if that is case. How I can get my husband to stop shouting to the world that I am negative.

  2. You can ask him to voice his concerns to you in private and you can actively begin to listen to what you are saying and become conscious of what everyone is hearing. If more than one person is pointing out that you are negative than it is time to listen to them and to the words and thougths you are using. As you listen to yourself, become aware of whether you are being critical of other people's ideas or just seeing the negative side of what they are saying. If you want to change this, then as you listen to your thoughts and words, you begin to choose other words that are positive and supportive. If you cannot find these words, just be quiet and listen to the wisdom in your heart. Be open to seeing life through a new lens that is supportive of your hopes and dreams and others. It takes one step at a time. If you don't want him to shout to the world that you are negative, select new words.

    I am a life coach and do offer life coaching sessions for people who want to make change in their lives. If you are interested in this, you can find more information on my website at Click on the link for services.

    I wish you the best on your journey to bringing joy and inspiration to others.