Saturday, June 30, 2012


As a life coach and Reiki practitioner I talk to people all the time and listen to their complaints. They feel as if they are on a treadmill not going anywhere, doing the same thing day in and day out. Their description of their lives is that they are boxed into a routine that does not support their True self. This self is the one that wants and needs to be in joy, explore life, and feel free to express their gifts, creativity, and voice. The True self that knows our connection with all of life was once sidelined by the socialization process, family rules, and choices that we made to “fit in.”  
When I ask them what is holding them back from stepping out of the box, they respond with fear of the unknown. Fear of change and fear of taking that first step. Over time when we do not live our Truth, we become paralyzed on all levels – emotionally we become numb or overwhelmed, mentally our mind is frozen by what we should do, energetically our energy is diminished making us physically tired, lacking and joy or motivation to change. They ask me how do I step out of this box.
My response is find ways to feed your soul. Remember when you were young, what brought joy. How would you like to express yourself in ways that you are not doing so right now? How can you be creative? What does freedom mean and look like to you and what steps can you take to create this freedom in your life? What positive qualities would you like to have more of in your life – peace, fun, love, compassion, passion, etc.? There are many other questions, but these are a good place to start.
As we step into being who we really are and bring forth those qualities in our own unique way, our life changes. Our life story begins to change when we acknowledge where we are and accept it –quit fighting life. The next step is to begin to make changes that support the qualities that we want more of in our life. We can change in a second or we can take months or years to incorporate changes that feed and nourish us.
When we feed our soul with thoughts, activities, and qualities that spark joy, love, peace, and freedom, our soul celebration fortifies and ignites all levels of our being. We begin to realign with the essence of who we are and what unique essence we are here to birth. Life becomes effortless. We step out of the box that other people imagined for us and that we lost ourselves in. Our nourished soul opens our heart and mind to embrace life in ways that support us on all levels. Our soul-centered heart motivates us to explore freedom and how we can express the realm Me. We experience new lots of energy to support our path and the stress of staying in the box that no longer fit our life melts away as joy returns. Other people might complain that how dare we change! However, when we live our Truth, our joy-filled state of being has a greater impact for the good and grace on our families, communities and the planet. Not only are we lifted into higher levels of expressing good/God in life, the world around us is lifted as well.
Need help stepping out of the box?    Transformational life coaching might be for you. Sessions via phone, skype, or in person. 

Monday, March 19, 2012


Many clients tell me that they do not feel love in their life. Their experience in life is one of being hurt, disappointed, or indifference. They tell me that they cannot feel and it is impossible for them to let love into their life. My response as I work with them in my capacity as a life coach or Reiki Master on their healing journey is that they can feel. They are feeling. On the scale of feelings that they can feel they are choosing hurt, disappointment, anger, loneliness, and other joyless states of emotion. They are just not picking love as an option for what they could feel at that moment.
Our capacity to feel love is always there. We are just not choosing to align in love. If we looked at our feelings as a spectrum from hurt and disappointment on the far left end of the spectrum and indifference a little further to the right, and then as we move to the other end on the right we would find joy, peace, compassion, gratitude and love. This spectrum always exists for everyone.  Every moment provides us the opportunity to choose a thought and an emotion to support the thought. These create the feeling in that moment. These choices create our level of joy and contentment with our lives. The choices we make are determinants to whether or not we will experience vibrant energy to support our life fueled by love or whether our experience will lack energy and create grief, frustration, and more pain.
Within us is our connection with our Soul/Higher Self, the part of us that never dies and knows Oneness with the Creator. When we take our focus on the outer chaos that we have engaged in our lives and turn our attention within, we find all the resources that we need to support our journey to feeling and being love. Instead of living unconsciously, we set our attention to be conscious of where we are on this spectrum and to choose the feelings that support where we want to be.
In addition to engaging our attention in this plight for love, we work with setting our intention to feel, see, and be love. When we use our attention and set our intention, the harmony between the two guides us up this spectrum to seeing the love that is occurring all around us. We move out of living in the lower spectrum of loneliness, hurt, anger, and disappointment and reside in joy, gratitude, peace, compassion, and love. We find love in places where it had always resided when our attention was on the other feelings.
In this journey through the feeling spectrum we make a choice to let down our armor around our heart. We put it there while renting space at the lower end of the feeling spectrum to protect our heart from all the pain that these lower vibrational feelings projected. As we move up the spectrum, we can remove the armor and allow these healing and transforming vibrations to enter our heart and body. In releasing and opening the heart, we become aware of this greater place within us, called the Soul. We experience its love, wisdom, and expansion that lets us be love, receive love, and see life through a perspective that is grounded in love.
So if you are looking for love on the lower end of the feeling spectrum, you are not going to find it there. Align your attention, set your intention on love, and journey up the continuum into the field of love and beauty that you seek. A whole new world is waiting. Come join us!

Monday, February 20, 2012


Shortly after writing my last blog Being Love, Creates More Love, I realized that in order to have more love, more money, more of anything in our lives we need to be open to receive all of it. It seems that we do a great job in giving to others. We give of our time, money, love, and resources to help others succeed, move forward, and feel comfortable. However, it seems as if when others want to give to us, we close down to some degree. Whether it is a compliment, a gift, love, or money, we tend to say “that’s ok, you do not need to do that.” What are we saying? Are we saying that we are not worthy to receive? Are we saying that we are not lovable, because on some level we know that we really are so lovable? It could be that we were taught to be givers and not receivers, but we can teach ourselves to do both creating a new balance that serves us and others. Maybe opening our hearts by saying a big thank you and accepting the gifts is the key creating this new balance and experiencing our dreams.
In order to manifest our dreams, we need to be open to receive. How is the dream going to be realized if we are shutting the doors to receiving it? After reading the last blog, I began to think about the way that I can give in a big way, but that I only allow myself to receive on a much smaller level. I could see how this imbalance was not serving me to reach my goals and does not align me with my Higher Self that brings forth infinity possibilities when I am open.  I understood that only I can open this door to receive and that the world was waiting for me to open it. In that moment, I proclaimed in my mind and heart that I am fully open to receive my highest good, whether it is the realization of my dreams, money, love or a free lunch. I am open. I bid you to look into the areas of your life that are blocking your ability to openly receive and give yourself permission to receive. You are worthy. You are love. You are able to have your cake and eat it too. It is all available to you when you approach life with an open heart and mind.
May you claim your ability to receive and may this year be the time when you experience all your dreams come to fruition. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012


In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day I have a few thoughts. Every day provides opportunities to love. Love heals and uplifts our spirit to higher levels of being as an individual and as the human race. Start with looking at yourself each morning and sending love to yourself. Really connect with what you see; love the being in the mirror. Look past the appearance and seek to see the true spirit of God’s love within. If we cannot love ourselves, then we really cannot love another because we are reflecting to others what we feel about our own self.
So let’s align with thoughts, emotions, and actions that is based in love toward us. Let us celebrate the love that we are. This moves us into being able to love others without coming from a place of need, control, or manipulation. Real love is unconditional. Unconditional love allows us to celebrate our partner, family, and friends and anyone without needing anything in return. Unconditional love when experienced by the receiver brings peace, joy and a bliss that sparkles and lifts our being to new heights. For those extending unconditional love, we feel the same. If you would like more love in your life, give more.
Imagine how your world would change when you love yourself. Imagine how your world would change if you could look at others through the lens of unconditional love.
When each person aligns in love our world will change. The collective consciousness will shift the harsh realities on the planet to those that are aligned for the good of all instead of the good of a few. We are each responsible for healing humanity’s downfall and love is the key. When we love, we find solutions that are love based. We lift humanity into realms of knowing and loving and our society moves forward creating new realities that are centered in love for all.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012


This is my motto for this year. Our attitudes, thoughts, and emotions fuel our success or down fall. Even though the outer world may appear to be scary with all the changes that are occurring, a lot of the changes are for the better.
We can go kicking or screaming resisting our destiny. Or we can release our resistance to what is and walk through any situation with courage, faith, and a deeper knowing that we do not see all the forces of good that are working for us.
First we need to surrender our resistance, negative attitudes and over reactions to our current situations. Next we enter the stillness and align ourselves energetically with the Creator’s love, wisdom, and direction. We open ourselves to that which is beyond our ability to understand and we stand in the attitude of expecting the best.
When we release the resistance and open our hearts and minds to the possibility of good occurring, the Universe answers us with the energy and outcomes that support our good. We let it in. It attracts similar energy into our field like a magnet. A good attitude attracts a favorable outcome. The outcome may not be the way that we wanted or expected (that is where the surrendering the resistance to what we see comes in).  
When we resist, we keep the good from entering our radar of reality. We keep attracting energy that resists our good, our greater possibilities. What we attract mirrors our inner and outer thoughts and feelings.
I have always considered myself to be a positive person. However, at one point in my life I got stuck in a negative place. A wonderful that I did not know very well asked me why I was so negative? I was floored. I could not believe what I heard because that is not how I saw myself. She told me to listen to my inner and outer dialogs and make a choice to stay there or change. After listening to the sad stories that I kept telling, I realized that this was not the place where I wanted to be so I consciously chose new words and began aligning with the energy of present, not the past. Each moment we can live in the energy of expecting the best or plant land mines on our journey that will go off at undetermined times because that is the energy that we are creating.
I encourage you to use this motto or some other possible affirmation to keep you aligned in attracting the good that can occur in your life. Post it on your computer, on the bathroom mirror, in your workspace. Keep it there until you naturally begin to expect positive outcomes.
Watch your thoughts for they become your words.
Watch your words for they become your actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
Watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
Expect the Best,